Happy memories continue to bind people but memories don't stretch into future.Is it really necessary to go to the roots of what happened?Does finding the truth why the death or loss took place become more important than kindness? " Ï felt angry with Don.He has become so arrogant in his despair and misery, he really thinks he has been marked out for suffering far more than any one else and that this entitles him to receive, but not give , sympathy."
When alienation begins , phone calls are replaced by emails , and then emails by occassional texts and then it begins to near the end . You don't even feel guilty about enjoying yourself.Alienation does bring the feeling of loss of romance and sex but you ignore it.Concern becomes a luxury you can afford." Don was in hospital.Slowly ., on the long drive to hospital, I had begun to feel anxious and troubled about Don and what might have happened , but there was certain luxury about my concern.I could afford it .This was awful to admit, but I didn't have to admit it to anyone but myself.
You begin to feel jealous about how affectionate your children are towards the other ." I had a feeling of alarm:Don had found her,Don would keep her.She would not find a telephone and ring me."He can't be completely out of my life but I don't want him at the centre.
It is one of the benefits we bereaved bestow on other people-we make them feel lucky .Alienation is as much painful as grief , if not more.
The book ends with a hope in spite of despair:"I have recovered a little , I will recover more."
I liked the novel for its profound and powerful expression of death , loss , grief , alienation and flickers of hope .