This book on personality by Daniel Nettle ,
published by Oxford University Press in 2007 (298 pages) is one of the oxford Landmark Science books. It
cer helps you to know your self ,
understand better those around you and
also tries to answer the question if we
can change our personality.
The book starts with a request to fill up a brief
questionnaire of 12 questions to assess yourself on the big five personality
dimensions..(The Newcastle
Personality assessor).The dimensions are:
1. Extraversion.
2. Neuroticism.
3. Conscientiousness.
4. Agreeableness.
5. Openness.
You assess your self , with your
scores in respect of each of the five dimensions. Only by the time you reach
near the end of the book , you get to realize the full meaning of these
dimensions , and you begin to look afresh at your self.
What is personality? It is not just what we do repeatedly in the large-scale narratives of our lives-
love , career , friendships- which tend to be somewhat consistent over time ,
it is also what we do in tiny interactions
which shows the same kind of patterns over our whole life. Naturally ,
we want to know about our own personality, and also about the personality of
other people .
The big
five personality dimensions
are extraversion, neuroticism,
Conscientiousness, Agreeableness and openness.
1. Extraversion is responsiveness of
positive emotions. In the high scorer , the responsiveness is great , and so
the person is prepared to work
hard to get the buzz of company ,
excitement , achievement , adulation and romance. For an introvert , the psychological benefits of getting these
things are fewer.
An introvert is not motivated to go out , put in efforts or fight out for
them.
2.Neuroticism:Neuroticism is to negative
emotions what extraversion is to positive emotions. Negative emotions are an interconnected group including fear,
anxiety, shame, guilt , disgust , and sadness
that are deeply unpleasant to experience. High scorers on neuroticism have more groundless worries and
more negative emotions. They have low self esteem, higher rates of
depression. They are workaholics and get
better academic results. Neuroticism is a (weak) positive predictor of success
for professional occupations.
3.Conscientiousness:
They are able to control impulses. Very low Conscientiousness means an
addictive personality that can’t stop
doing things even when they are damaging. The smarter
people are , the less conscientious they are. It is not true that
conscientiousness brings only benefits. High Conscientiousness in an extreme form is called obsessive –compulsive personality
disorder.( not related to obsessive-compulsive
disorder).It is preoccupation with orderliness,
perfectionism, and mental control
at the expense of flexibility, openness and efficiency. Sticking to the
plan and schedule becomes the main issue
and the actual point of activity is
entirely lost. Inter personal relationships are badly affected by OCPD , as a
result. There is no spontaneity. Perfectionism is just very high
Conscientiousness.
4.
Agreeableness: High scorers on
agreeableness are cooperative ,
trusting and empathetic , while low
scorers are cold-hearted, hostile and
non-compliant. Such high scorer people have ‘other-regarding preferences’. They
are quick to forgive and slow to anger. At the very extreme
low-Agreeableness are psychopaths who are completely egocentric , remorseless,
dishonest, incapable of love , and disposed to
use others entirely to forward their own ends. When degree of agreeableness is so high
that a person completely sacrifices his or her own needs, values, options , pleasures
and goals in order to serve the desires of others , it is ‘dependent personality
disorder’. Research shows that the less Agreeable the executive, the better they do; or, nice
guys finish last. Personal success tends
to mean low Agreeableness. In general , women are higher in Agreeableness than men are. This implies that the share of
women in top positions will not be 50
percent but less because of Agreeableness factor.
5. Openness:
It means broad associations of meaning,
restless unconventionality, supernatural beliefs and psychosis-like experiences. Openness predicts creativity and innovative ness.
Personality traits have 50 percent heritable component. The other
half is environmentally induced
personality variation. Can we
change our personalities , or are we just stuck with them? You can choose to
avoid certain people who bring out the
worst in you. You can keep yourself away from contexts where aspects of your
personality that you are unhappy
with will surface. You all carry useless and outdated notions of what we should be and why. From time to
time , you should shed these notions. You should reframe our story. Also , you need to
change your behaviour. But it does not
mean that we can change our personality. It means understanding your
personality and using this information to make wise choices.
Personality is a very clear and
comprehensive book .It has certainly helped me to know my self and has
increased my self awareness. I highly recommend
the readers to read this book .In fact, you should not miss it.